ADOPTEE SEARCH &
REUNION - A HEALING JOURNEY

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Hello and Welcome

Welcome to My Adopted Life. Here you will find resources on adoptee search and reunion and navigating adoption reunion and healing from identity-shattering events, like learning you are adopted, dealing with the shock of a DNA surprise, or discovering you are donor-conceived. I have been in reunion with both my birth mother and my late birth father since 2010. I blog about my life as a black market baby and managing reunions with adoptive family and biological relatives. I urge you to check out the resources section for links to books, talks, adoption support groups, and writing classes. 

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All the best,
Patricia Knight Meyer
Adoptee, Author, and Advocate for Adoption Reform

My Story

What one would call a Black Market Baby, my outside-the-system “adoption,” meant my “adoptive” parents never received my birth certificate, an adoption never took place, and the name I used never existed on any legal paperwork.

I was handed over along a Texas hospital curb in 1970 – no judge, agency, or paperwork required.  Through my own journey of uncovering the truth about my Black Market adoption, I discovered that a shady attorney sold me to my would-be parents and later extorted them out of thousands of dollars with the threat of taking back the baby. I wouldn’t obtain my first legal birth certificate until I was 47 years old.

Now, I’m watching history repeat itself, as vulnerable mothers face an expanding for-profit adoption industry valued at $30 billion dollars. With abortion rights restricted, more desperate women will stand at the mercy of a system designed to coerce and exploit them.

As an adoption reform advocate, and a relinquishee who has lived with the consequences of an illegal adoption, I speak and keynote at adoption conferences, appear on podcasts, and have written a memoir about my experience. I have a journalism degree from the University of Texas, a decade of experience as a book publicist, and my reunion video has 280,000 YouTube views. Thank you for stopping by. 

FORTHCOMING MEMOIR

black-market adoption wonderland the memoir
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INDIEREADER REVIEW:
“WONDERLAND proves to be a once in a lifetime kind of work, staying with readers long after the last page is turned.”
Read the full review here.
—  Indie Reader

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UPCOMING EVENTS

I'm Speaking at Domestic Adoption Camp 2026
July 16–19 • YMCA of the Rockies • Estes Park, Colorado
This July, I’m headed to the mountains for Heritage Camp’s Domestic Adoption Camp 2026, held at the stunning YMCA of the Rockies in Estes Park, Colorado.
DAC brings together adoptees from toddlers to adults, their families, and the broader adoption community for a few days of connection, honest conversation, and the particular kind of belonging that only happens when adoptees come together.
I’ll be there as a speaker, panelist, and facilitator across several sessions:
Friday, July 18 I’ll open the day with a keynote for parents — “Invisible Threads: What Your Adopted Child Needs You to Know” — an honest look at the interior world of adoptees that parents often can’t see, and what makes the difference. Later that afternoon, I’ll take part in a deep-dive interview and Q&A, and I’ll have an author table at the Self-Care Fair where you can find me, say hello, and learn more about my forthcoming memoir.
Saturday, July 19 I’ll facilitate the Young Adult Adoptee Panel — where young adult adoptees speak directly to teens about identity, search, belonging, and the feelings that don’t always have names yet.
We’ll close with a writing and journaling exercise to help teens bring it all inward. Later in the morning, I’ll join the Adult Adoptee Panel for Parents, sharing my own story and 15 years of reunion experience as one voice among several.
If you’re attending DAC this year, I would love to connect. Come find me at the Self-Care Fair, stay for the conversation after a session, or just say hello — adoptee community is why I do this work.
Camp Details 📅 July 16–19, 2026 📍 YMCA of the Rockies, Estes Park, Colorado 🔗 Learn more and register at heritagecamps.org

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