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Welcome to My Adopted Life. Here you will find resources on navigating adoption reunion and healing from identity-shattering events, like learning you are adopted, dealing with the shock of a DNA surprise, or discovering you are donor-conceived. I have been in reunion with both my birth mother and my late birth father since 2010. I blog about my life as a black market baby and managing reunions with adoptive family and biological relatives. I urge you to check out the resources section for links to books, talks, adoption support groups, and writing classes.
What one would call a Black Market Baby, my outside-the-system “adoption,” meant my “adoptive” parents never received my birth certificate, an adoption never took place, and the name I used never existed on any legal paperwork.
I was handed over along a Texas hospital curb in 1970 – no judge, agency, or paperwork required. Through my own journey of uncovering the truth about my Black Market adoption, I discovered that a shady attorney sold me to my would-be parents and later extorted them out of thousands of dollars with the threat of taking back the baby. I wouldn’t obtain my first legal birth certificate until I was 47 years old.
Now, I’m watching history repeat itself, as vulnerable mothers face an expanding for-profit adoption industry valued at $30 billion dollars. With abortion rights restricted, more desperate women will stand at the mercy of a system designed to coerce and exploit them.
As an adoption reform advocate, and a relinquishee who has lived with the consequences of an illegal adoption, I speak and keynote at adoption conferences, appear on podcasts, and have written a memoir about my experience. I have a journalism degree from the University of Texas, a decade of experience as a book publicist, and my reunion video has 280,000 YouTube views. Thank you for stopping by.
WONDERLAND: Memoir of a Black-Market Adoption (Nov.3, 26, Unsolicited Press) placed as a finalist for the 2024 C&R Press Nonfiction Award, made the shortlist for the Bakwin Unpublished Prose 2024 Award, was named a finalist in the University of New Orleans Press annual novel contest, and an excerpt “Infant Of” from the book shortlisted both in The Letter Review Spring 2025 non-fiction contest, and runner-up in nonfiction for Magpie Zine’s inaugural Clark Closser Memorial Literature Contest (Publishing in March 2026) Audio reading included on website.
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The third biennial conference uniting adoption, assisted reproduction, and NPE communities into one powerful voice for truth, healing, and connection.
March 19-22, 2026 | Atlanta, Georgia | Friday 11am – noon
Reclaiming Your Narrative: Eight Essential Tools for Writing Memoirs About Our Journeys We’ll explore how writing a memoir can become a powerful tool for healing, selfdiscovery, and advocacy within the adoption community. Participants will learn what memoir truly is—moving beyond a chronological autobiography to intentional, purpose-driven storytelling. By reclaiming their narratives, writers can transform personal experiences of identity, trauma, and growth into stories that inspire connection, healing, and meaningful social change.
April 17-19, 2026 | Austin, Texas
I’ll be joining The Making of Me podcast for a live event as part of ATMOM’s full weekend of community and storytelling.
Friday night (April 17, 6 PM), Kristal Parke screens her documentary Because She’s Adopted at the Dougherty Arts Center, followed by food and connection.
Saturday (April 18, 10 AM-3 PM), Damon Davis from Who Am I Really? podcast is emceeing. There’s a live podcast with Sarah & Louise. A photography exhibit by Jeff Forney. And a panel I’m part of, alongside Gregory Luce from the Adoptee Rights Law Center, authors Emma Stevens and Dr. Abby Hasberry, Washington State Rep Chris Stearns, writer Tony Corsentino, and Juliet Rubin Ramirez from Adoptee Mentoring Society.
We’re closing with Dr. Liz DeBetta’s one-woman performance Un-M-Othered.
Saturday night we’re gathering somewhere for drinks and connection (TBD). Sunday morning there’s an optional walk around Lady Bird Lake.
The above segment is pulled from the larger segment which you can watch here.
“Who in the world am I? Ah, that’s the great puzzle.”
-Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland